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My Son Doesn’t Like to Play Sports and I’m OK With That

Austin (with Clifford & Monkey) and Jake (with Curious George) My son doesn’t like to play sports. And I’m okay with that. I’m not so sure about the rest of America, though. In our culture, it seems that boys who aren’t interested in sports are quickly set apart from the other boys on the block. […]

Not Every Boy Likes to Play Sports: Signs of Nonathletic Boys in Trouble and How You Can Help

Here are some of the things you’ll hear or see from boys who become anxious when they think they might have to get involved in some game, or get stuck being the only one sitting it out. They may complain of bellyaches, headaches, or general “I don’t feel well” on gym days. They might hang […]

How We Like Our Teenagers: Coltish and Unruly

Despite our communal anxiety about keeping adolescents in check, our culture still seems to like its teenagers a little coltish and unruly. You see this in parents’ bemused tolerance for their kids’ antics, and in the charity afforded them when rude or irresponsible; “typical teenage behavior” it’s called, which is unfortunate. Teenagers can do better, […]

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School Bullying in the United Arab Emirates

  The following are comments that Beth Margolis Rupp, my co-author on The Last Boys Picked: Helping Boys Who Don’t Like Sports Survive Bullies and Boyhood, and I gave to Jennifer Bell, Senior National Reporter for The National, an English-language newspaper published in Abu Dhabi (UAE). Beth resides in Abu Dhabi and was contacted by Bell, […]

Raising Boys to Be Good Sports: Humiliation is a horrible “motivational” technique.

This is the fifth in a series of six articles about raising boys to be good sports. I’ve yet to meet anyone who actually played better, ran faster, or threw more accurately as a result of being humiliated by his coach. I’ve known plenty of kids who’ve tried harder when scolded, but that usually doesn’t […]

Raising Boys to Be Good Sports: Wanting to win is okay as long as no one ends up demoralized in the process

This is the third in a series of six articles about raising boys to be good sports. #3 Wanting to win is okay as long as no one ends up demoralized in the process.     Winning feels good. Losing—not so much. In fact, losing feels bad enough that winners don’t really need to rub it […]

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Boy Behavior or Bad Behavior? The Dangers of Romanticizing Masculinity

By mistaking unchecked behavior for undeveloped behavior, we allow unacceptable behavior in boys and men to be seen as just another part of “being a guy.”      Years ago I knew a mother who had eight kids, the last six of whom were boys. The brothers were energetic, scrappy kids who were polite and […]

It’s Never OK to Say Gay When You Really Mean Stupid, Guest Post by Rosalind Wiseman

For the next several months a group of writers focused on the issues of raising boys to become men are collaborating through the writing and sharing of blog posts in order to bring greater awareness to the unique challenges parents and the community face in the 21st Century.  Twice a month these writers will be […]

Signs Your Son Is Using too Much Tech (And What To Do About It), Guest Post by Dr. Gregory Janzt

For the next several months a group of writers focused on the issues of raising boys to become men are collaborating through the writing and sharing of blog posts in order to bring greater awareness to the unique challenges parents and the community face in the 21st Century.  Twice a month these writers will be […]