This is the second in a series of six articles about raising boys to be good sports. #2 Don’t mistake bad sportsmanship for competitiveness. Poor sportsmanship has many disguises, one of the best being competitiveness, as in “My kid, man, he sure likes to win. He’s a real competitor so, yeah, he gets a little bent […]
This is the first in a series of six articles about raising boys to be good sports. #1 Don’t dismiss bad sportsmanship as just “boys being boys.” Boys who lose games or don’t play as well as they would like to respond to their disappointment in all kinds of ways, some graciously and others, well, […]
Articles and essays by parents attesting to the merits of summer camp for their children abound. I want to write one about why I go to camp—me, a fifty plus year old psychologist and single mother of three grown boys, who probably has no business taking time off from her practice or the myriad unsettled […]
In the wake of Lance Armstrong’s disillusioning admission of having used performance-enhancing drugs, there has been a lot of talk about the impact of role models on our kids, and about what happens when they let us down. For some kids, though, all this talk about role models is nonsense—too sentimental, too childish. I don’t […]
Boys Who Get Picked Last at Recess Here’s my response to a mom whose 6th grader son keeps getting picked last during recess. Can you believe schools still allow kids to pick their own teams like that, one kid at a time? I know some will say, Hey, it’s recess, we can’t control what the […]
Bullying and the Non-Athletic Boy (interview,The Washington Post) If you’re interested in reading about some of our cultural contributions to the bullying of boys who don’t care for sports, check out my interview by “On Parenting” blog author Janice D’Arcy of the Washington Post.