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What My Son Learned The Day My Car Was Repossessed

  Mom, there’s a guy in our driveway with a tow truck, my son reports. With miscalculated insouciance I reply, No worries, dude, I’m sure it’s Bill. Bill, our neighbor, owns a service station. He’s hooking up your car, mom. I run outside to yell at this man, who’s not Bill, and end up handing […]

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School Bullying in the United Arab Emirates

  The following are comments that Beth Margolis Rupp, my co-author on The Last Boys Picked: Helping Boys Who Don’t Like Sports Survive Bullies and Boyhood, and I gave to Jennifer Bell, Senior National Reporter for The National, an English-language newspaper published in Abu Dhabi (UAE). Beth resides in Abu Dhabi and was contacted by Bell, […]

Closing Down the School of Hard Knocks

Sure, the kid is tough and “can take it.” But should he have to? “He’s tough, he’s a boy. He can take it,” says a father about his six-year-old son, who just got knocked flat on his face by an older brother testing out his brand-new bike. Sure he can take it. What choice does he have? […]

Raising Boys to Be Good Sports:  Family Game Night and the Art of Interruption

This is the last in a series of six articles about raising boys to be good sports. I wouldn’t consider this series on good sportsmanship to be complete without saying at least a few words about family game nights—those hotbeds of rivalry disguised as interludes of filial togetherness. The problem of course isn’t in being competitive; […]

Raising Boys to Be Good Sports: Humiliation is a horrible “motivational” technique.

This is the fifth in a series of six articles about raising boys to be good sports. I’ve yet to meet anyone who actually played better, ran faster, or threw more accurately as a result of being humiliated by his coach. I’ve known plenty of kids who’ve tried harder when scolded, but that usually doesn’t […]

The Decade of the Boy: Guest Post by New York Times Best-Selling Author, Michael Gurian

For the last several months a group of writers has been focusing on the issues of boys and men by collaborating through the writing and sharing of blog posts in order to bring greater awareness to the unique challenges boys and men face in the 21st Century.  Twice a month these writers are posting the […]

Raising Boys to Be Good Sports: Bad sportsmanship doesn’t self-correct

  This is the fourth in a series of six articles about raising boys to be good sports.   Here’s the bad news: Bad sportsmanship isn’t “just a phase” and it’s not something a kid is going to magically grow out of. Here’s the good news: There are things you can do to encourage better sportsmanship […]

Raising Boys to Be Good Sports: Wanting to win is okay as long as no one ends up demoralized in the process

This is the third in a series of six articles about raising boys to be good sports. #3 Wanting to win is okay as long as no one ends up demoralized in the process.     Winning feels good. Losing—not so much. In fact, losing feels bad enough that winners don’t really need to rub it […]

Raising Boys to Be Good Sports: Mistaking poor sportsmanship for “competitiveness”

This is the second in a series of six articles about raising boys to be good sports. #2 Don’t mistake bad sportsmanship for competitiveness.   Poor sportsmanship has many disguises, one of the best being competitiveness, as in “My kid, man, he sure likes to win. He’s a real competitor so, yeah, he gets a little bent […]