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Bullying Has a Long History in American Humor and Entertainment

Bullying and cruelty have a long pedigree in American history when it comes to our culture of humor and entertainment. The “Smack-O-Jack” game that my brother and I invented and tormented each other with decades ago was surely born of the countless hours we spent watching those Three Stooges, with their oddly compelling antics. These days, […]

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“Making A Point” with your teen versus having a conversation

    Olivia calls her dad a s**t-head every chance she gets, but what she really wants to say to him is this: “Every time you talk to me you’re trying to make some point and it gets old. Plus, you think you’re being funny but it hurts my feelings and that’s why I don’t […]

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My Teen Client Calls Her Dad a S@#t-Head Every Chance She Gets

  My teen client calls her dad a s@#t-head every chance she gets but what she really wants to say to him is this: “Every time you talk to me you’re trying to make some point and it gets old. Plus, you think you’re being funny but it hurts my feelings and that’s why I […]

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Tired of One-Word Responses from Your Teen? Ditch the Questions and Become Interesting Enough That They Want to Talk With You

Every day at 3 pm thousands upon thousands of kids and teenagers are being clobbered by questions about their day at school from the people who love them the most—their parents. And despite the fact that most of these parents would be satisfied with just a little bit of feedback, a brief commentary—even just a […]

“My son refuses to participate in sports or go to practice. Do I insist or not?” Demonstrating respect without enabling

  Your son is making it very clear that he doesn’t want to play or go to practice. He might be adamant, anxious, even tearful. Saying to him Okay, we’ll pass on it feels too soft and all but promises a repeat performance the next time your son’s supposed to participate in something he doesn’t […]

HELPING OR ENABLING?

“My son hates sports but I want him to try some new ones. How do I know if I’m encouraging him or pushing him?”  Discovering what’s right for your son

    You’re getting ready to load your son and his gear into the car and notice that he’s gone back into the house for what must be his fifteenth trip to the bathroom. When he comes out, his eyes are red and watery. He tells you that he doesn’t feel well. Does he have […]

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What Am I Teaching My Son If I Let Him Quit Playing Sports Just Because He’s Afraid of the Ball?

  You are teaching him… that you respect him, even if you don’t understand his choices. that you will listen closely to what he says and take it at face value. that it pays to speak up. that he doesn’t have to disguise his real feelings in order to gain or sustain your approval. that […]

Son Doesn’t Like Sports? It Could Be His Learning Disability or Sensory Disorder

    Don’t All Boys Like to Play Sports? It’s hard for some people to imagine that sports and physical games don’t appeal to every boy. But as soon as we take into account boys’ unique temperaments, personalities, and physiques, all that variance among them makes sense. Some boys don’t dislike sports so much as […]

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Why You Should Read The Last Boys Picked (November 25, 2016 guest post by Jennifer L. W. Fink)

I’ve never been a boy, but boy do I know all about being the last kid picked! I was always non-athletic. (In fact, until very recently, I still described myself as “one of the most non-athletic people you’ll ever meet.”) I wasn’t interested in sports and I wasn’t good at sports. Likely, those two things […]

Being a Non-Sporty Boy in a Sports-Driven Culture (guest post for BuildingBoys.net)

On a spectacular spring day several years ago, my nine-year-old son, Jake, and I stepped into an elevator following a routine dentist’s appointment, headed for home. Jake, by the way, is one of those boys who doesn’t like sports, isn’t any good at them, and avoids them at every turn. Moments later, we were joined by […]