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From Either/Or Thinking to Both/And: Expanding Definitions of What It Means to Be Male

“The Tyranny of the Or” is how Jim Collins and Jerry Porras, authors of Built to Last: Successful Habits of Visionary Companies, describe the experience of facing two seemingly contradictory concepts and believing that you must choose only one or the other but never both. Thus, businesses can be either effective or efficient, and health […]

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Boys Will be Boys? Just A Lousy Excuse for Bad Behavior

For too long this familiar adage —  “boys will be boys”  — has served as nothing more than a thin disguise for poor behavior that boys and men should have long outgrown or never developed in the first place. Countless acts of cruelty, bullying, teasing, assault, harassment, and exploitation have been normalized as de facto […]

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The ManBox Entraps Males and Females Alike

  Esther J. Cepeda’s op-ed about the narrow margins of masculinity within which society tells men and boys to live (Guys, are you trapped inside the “ManBox” stereotype? Lubbock Avalanche-Journal, 4/8/17) addresses a topic we are all familiar with, but don’t take seriously enough. Maybe that’s why there’s such a gap between the way men […]

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Helping Young Boys Expand Their Emotional Language | An Article by Clinician’s Digest

Myself and other professionals were invited to weigh in on a piece written by the Clinician’s Digest where we discuss young boys and the challenges they face with expressing emotions. Below is an excerpt with my contribution but feel free to read the full article here. “…Psychologist Janet Sasson Edgette takes a multipronged approach in […]

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Bullying Has a Long History in American Humor and Entertainment

Bullying and cruelty have a long pedigree in American history when it comes to our culture of humor and entertainment. The “Smack-O-Jack” game that my brother and I invented and tormented each other with decades ago was surely born of the countless hours we spent watching those Three Stooges, with their oddly compelling antics. These days, […]

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“Making A Point” with your teen versus having a conversation

    Olivia calls her dad a s**t-head every chance she gets, but what she really wants to say to him is this: “Every time you talk to me you’re trying to make some point and it gets old. Plus, you think you’re being funny but it hurts my feelings and that’s why I don’t […]

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My Teen Client Calls Her Dad a S@#t-Head Every Chance She Gets

  My teen client calls her dad a s@#t-head every chance she gets but what she really wants to say to him is this: “Every time you talk to me you’re trying to make some point and it gets old. Plus, you think you’re being funny but it hurts my feelings and that’s why I […]